Why People Go Crazy In Love?

If you talk to two persons - one who has never felt love, and other who is deeply in love, you will find them talking in a very different way. If you ask the person who has never loved about what he/she felt about the other's talk, the answer will be- crazy! 

Is it true? Does love drive one to madness? It may not be madness as understood by psychiatrists, but a madness of emotions. Am I right? Why does love do that? To understand this, we have to explore more about love or romance. Is it friendship? Is it physical attraction/ is it liking for each other? What is love and what is this relationship all about? Love combines all these and goes much beyond in bonding. Lovers are bonded to each other emotionally and totally. A lover can not imagine of life without his/her beloved. A lover will suffer like a fish suffers without water, if he/she is separated from the beloved. Love becomes the whole life. Love gives life. Love becomes the reason of life. Life begins and ends with love. That is love. And that's why people call love mad! 

How and why a lover feels like this for beloved is beyond any logical explanation. There is no arithmetic sum that can decide this. It is all emotional. And the emotions are so overwhelming that they engulf the whole personality. Why does a flower look lovely to all of us? Why are we attracted by the sight of a beautiful sunset? Why do we love to walk on the beach? Do we know? Can we answer these questions? Our only answer may be that - I feel happy doing it. A lover feels happy, rather so happy in love that it can not be compared with any other happiness. One forgets one's pains, one's pleasures and one's existence when in love. 

Fall in love and feel the madness. You will get a clue to why lovers are called mad. Did any poet who wrote about romance ever dream that love and romance would one day become part of the field of medical studies? But that is happening. Those in passionate romantic love, experience sweaty palms and butterflies in the stomach. A study has found that it is the result of rise in a protein called nerve growth factors. 

Will a day come when we will get these proteins from our druggists and experience romantic love? I am just joking about that, but it may also turn out to be true. An Italian study has found that this growth factor declines after a year or so after being in romance. Have you felt the difference between early phase and later phase of romance? That is all because of this chemical. Now whether our feelings change the level of the chemical or whether the body reduces the chemical may be subject of another research.

Another study has found that though passionate romance of high level may not last long, some passion may still last for years. That means that we may still love our partner romantically after years and years. Life would be so lovely if passion could be maintained for years and years. What do you think? I think that passionate romance is reduced by nature itself because those in early phase of romance feel like doing nothing else, while nature wants that they produce offspring, bring them up, search for food and carry on other mundane activities to maintain life. Nature is selfish - it always acts in a manner to protect itself. 

The next time you fall in romance, get your level of nerve growth factors checked and when you start becoming normal again, get the level checked again. All romance will go away when you realize that a protein was all that was responsible.

If you talk to two persons - one who has never felt love, and other who is deeply in love, you will find them talking in a very different way. If you ask the person who has never loved about what he/she felt about the other's talk, the answer will be- crazy!